misunderstandings

met up with a friend yesterday, and we were just chillin and catchin up, when she told me about this misunderstanding that happened with her and another good friend of her's.
after hearing her full story, i got thinking about all this.

why do misunderstandings happen? and why do misunderstanding happen usually with people who are close to us and are supposed to be elements of subset which is titled "people who understand me"
why are we so apprehensive to approach someone with whom we have a misunderstanding, and clear it out?

maybe because we expect too much from people. especially from those who supposedly understand us. a small misunderstanding has sparked off cold wars that last lifetimes, and sometimes even generations. and when someone actually cares enough to find out the reason, it turns out to be so trivial and actually so down right stupid, that nothin can be done about it. the best thing to do is go and talk it out. point blank. because no misunderstanding is big enough to loose a good friend over. drop your ego, but keep your self respect. and please for god's sake, dont believe gossip that you hear..gossip is the product of a very very bored mind. and it acts like fuel-in-fire for a misunderstanding.
talk, fight, scream, abuse, beat him up.. do whatever u want to..but get your friend back.
because at the end of the day, its friends that make life liveable. specially the ones that are elements of the subset titled " people who understand me".
for these are the type, who are very hard to find, and absolutely impossible to replace.
scared of getting hurt?
stop expecting. anything. from anybody. that way you'll never get hurt. ever. we decide who gets to hurt us or insult us. so if we dont give someone the power, they cant hurt us. but just because someone hurt you once, doesn't mean that you stop talking to them out of the fear that they will hurt you again. everything in life is a risk.

aur life mein risk nahin liya to kya jiya!

so chick, go take that risk. soon. you never know what life will throw at you tomorrow, and when you might actually need this friend.
your friend might be waiting for you.

untill next time...